Eight Essential Books If You're On A Healing Journey

It seems like just yesterday that I was graduating high school and getting ready to head to college. I have known my college friends almost half of my life. Recently I had a conversation with one of my good friends from college and we reminisced on how we thought we knew so much during those years. Life has definitely changed. We have experienced some great wins and some devastating losses. What I have learned and what I share with my clients is that all of these experiences serve a purpose. The joys and the pains are here to teach us something and we make it through these events with support and a dose of resiliency. 

Last year, I shared the list of books I read in 2016 that helped me on my journey towards healing and intentional self-work. You can find that blog post here. I believe reading can be therapeutic and hearing someone else's story can be encouraging. Whether you like non-fiction or autobiographies, books have the power to affirm and transform your life. Here I'll share eight books which I believe are essential for the healing journey. 

1. The Alchemist by Paulo Coehlo

  The story of a young shepherd boy named Santiago who travels in search of hidden treasure and encounters life lessons along the way. This book has changed my view on life. My favorite quote: “And, when you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it. ” 

The story of a young shepherd boy named Santiago who travels in search of hidden treasure and encounters life lessons along the way. This book has changed my view on life. My favorite quote: “And, when you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.” 

 

2. Peace From Broken Pieces by Iyanla Vanzant

  Known for her appearances on Oprah and the OWN network, master life coach Iyanla Vanzant shares her life and spiritual lessons from a decade of her life. She recounts the loss of her marriage, daughter, and difficult finances. This is a beautiful lesson in healing and resiliency.

Known for her appearances on Oprah and the OWN network, master life coach Iyanla Vanzant shares her life and spiritual lessons from a decade of her life. She recounts the loss of her marriage, daughter, and difficult finances. This is a beautiful lesson in healing and resiliency.

3. I Thought It Was Just Me by Brene Brown

  Brene Brown explores the effects of shame and offers strategies to transform the way we view ourselves in relation to others.     Quote: “Nothing silences us more effectively than shame.” 

Brene Brown explores the effects of shame and offers strategies to transform the way we view ourselves in relation to others. 

Quote: “Nothing silences us more effectively than shame.” 

4. The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz

 Don Miguel Ruiz shines a light on the self-limiting beliefs that steal our joy. In this book, he explores the Four agreements: Be impeccable with your word. Don't take anything personally. Don't make assumptions. Always do your best.

Don Miguel Ruiz shines a light on the self-limiting beliefs that steal our joy. In this book, he explores the Four agreements: Be impeccable with your word. Don't take anything personally. Don't make assumptions. Always do your best.

5. Purpose Driven Life by Rick Warren

 This is the devotionals of devotionals. It takes you through 40 days of self-exploration and learning about the intent God has for your life. We all have a purpose, this book explores how to tap into it.   Quote:“Experience is not what happens to you. It is what you do with what happens to you. Don’t waste your pain; use it to help others.” 

This is the devotionals of devotionals. It takes you through 40 days of self-exploration and learning about the intent God has for your life. We all have a purpose, this book explores how to tap into it. 

Quote:“Experience is not what happens to you. It is what you do with what happens to you. Don’t waste your pain; use it to help others.” 

6. Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud

 This book is so good I had to read it twice! It's focus is on helping us to realize the limitations we place on ourselves and others. Through case examples, this book is an easy read and will have you reflecting on how healthy your boundaries are.  Quote: “We change our behavior when the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the pain of changing. Consequences give us the pain that motivates us to change.” 

This book is so good I had to read it twice! It's focus is on helping us to realize the limitations we place on ourselves and others. Through case examples, this book is an easy read and will have you reflecting on how healthy your boundaries are.

Quote: “We change our behavior when the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the pain of changing. Consequences give us the pain that motivates us to change.” 

7. Own Your Glow by Latham Thomas

 Mama Glow Latham Thomas is such a light. I had the joy of meeting her in person and experiencing the radiance of her spirit. This is a guide for examining your life, embracing who you are, and empowering you to live in your light. Be sure to have a notebook handy for all the gems she's dropping.  Quote: “Own Your Glow and it will light your path along the way...you alone have the power to transform your future.” 

Mama Glow Latham Thomas is such a light. I had the joy of meeting her in person and experiencing the radiance of her spirit. This is a guide for examining your life, embracing who you are, and empowering you to live in your light. Be sure to have a notebook handy for all the gems she's dropping.

Quote: “Own Your Glow and it will light your path along the way...you alone have the power to transform your future.” 

8. The Untethered Soul by Mark Singer

 Michael Singer uses mindfulness and meditation and spiritual practices to explore the limitations we have placed on ourselves.   Quote: “Eventually you will see that the real cause of problem is not life itself. It's the commotion the mind makes about life that really causes the problems.” 

Michael Singer uses mindfulness and meditation and spiritual practices to explore the limitations we have placed on ourselves. 

Quote: “Eventually you will see that the real cause of problem is not life itself. It's the commotion the mind makes about life that really causes the problems.” 

 

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Let's Talk 2018 Goals!

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Looking at the calendar and I wonder where the heck did this year go? I wonder was I too busy having fun to notice the time go by? Alas, here I am in the first week of December and reflecting on all the things I accomplished this year. 

I started this blog, traveled to Bali for a group trip focused on self-care, made some new friends, attended several conferences, slashed some debt, and made a commitment to taking better care of my body. As I reflected on this, I remembered that all of these things started with a goal and my vision board. I don't do New Year's Resolutions. Why? Because studies show most people give up on those resolutions within the first month! Instead, I like to plan my goals by using a method called goal setting.

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Goal Setting

Goal setting involves writing down the goal, understanding the reason why you want to reach this goal, and detailing the steps you'll need to take to attain the goal. This method incorporates reflection, intention, commitment, and manifestation to help you be successful. I noticed a difference when I changed my intention regarding reaching my goals. There was a shift in my thinking and no goal became too big, though I remained realistic about my efforts. I believe by making small, attainable shifts in your thinking and behavior, you can reach any goal. So if you want to lose 20 pounds then your goal setting plan should go something like this.

Goal: Lose 20 pounds

Reason: I want to have more energy and fit my favorite pair of jeans again.

Plan: Three 30 min workouts per week, eat vegetables with every meal, remove sugar from my morning coffee. Hold yourself accountable. Tell others about the goal for support.

See how this is different than just listing a bunch of goals? By having a plan, you are more likely to follow through. 

Reminder: "A goal without a plan is just a dream"

Planners/Journals

I also like to use my planner for setting daily, weekly, and monthly goals. I realized I can't keep as much information in my head and expect to remember it without writing it down anymore. I have a planner and use the notes app on my iPhone to keep me on track with events, appointments, and my work schedule. One of my goals for 2018 is to have better time management which means I need to set aside time just for blog work instead of working on content sporadically during the week. A planner-whether virtually or hand held (my preference) -will come in handy. I picked up my planner from TJ Maxx and I was gifted a few from recent events I attended. You can find one in store or online like the Get Loved Up planner, Limitless Living Journal, or the Full Focus Planner

Vision Boards

Another way to plan goals is to use a vision board. This has become all the rave in recent years. Essentially, you place words and pictures on a board (or a wall or area of your house that you'll see every day). These words and pictures represent areas of your life you are working on and goals you want to attain. I have heard some powerful stories from people who have created a vision board and seen the board manifest into reality over time. You can go to the craft store for materials or attend a vision board party (or hold one of your own). I remember hearing an episode of the podcast, Support is Sexy, in which Lucinda Cross spoke about her Activate Your Vision Board Kit. This kit is filled with everything you need to complete a vision board and includes other items such as a gratitude jar, journal, and affirmation cards. You can find it on Amazon for $49.99. (this is not an ad, I was thinking of ordering and wanted to share. This does include an affiliate link so if you order from my link, know that I get a percentage of what you purchase. Thanks!)

However your choose to set your goals for the upcoming year, just set some. And give yourself some grace because there is no failure, only learning experiences. I'm here to let 2018 know I'm coming for it!

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Comment and let me know if you've started to plan your goals for 2018. What methods do you use? 

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Hi! I'm Krystal!  Welcome to my blog! I am a lifestyle mental wellness blogger and Licensed Professional Counselor in CT.

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Hes Cool, But I'm Kind of Over Him

I realize I have been dating the same type of guy for the last ten years. He’s handsome, charismatic, funny, and a hell of a kisser. But he’s just not that into me. Most recently, I rekindled with a former crush and we have been having a good time. But something is missing. “You need someone more sensitive,” my friend said. “Just have fun,” said another. “He’s a hottie. I don’t know what I would do if I had someone like that on me.” All the comments were the same. They encouraged me to have fun, throw caution to the wind, and enjoy myself for as long as I could. So there I was, having fun and taking it as it goes. The conversation was good and we always have a good time. But I realized something, he’s cool, but I’m kind of over him.

I have no issue with being alone. I actually enjoy my own company. Some days I'm just down right bored and craving attention. I've taken some time since my last break up (read about how this inspired me to blog here) to get to know mys elf a little better. I'm realizing it's time to listen to God's urging through the Universe to be better about who I chose to link with romantically.

You see, I’m outgrowing those guys. The ones who seem interested but aren’t ready to commit. I’m outgrowing the games and I just don’t have time to be chasing anyone. As a single woman in her 30’s, it can be both liberating and scary to have this realization. To realize, I’m just not that into HIM! I want something more, something special, and something true.  I had to break it to him. I let him know he’s been demoted and I went on with my life. I may change my mind (don’t judge me!) but for now, I’m doing my own thing. And damn it feels good! I’m choosing me. I’m saying to hell with these boys masquerading as men. I'm holding myself accountable for who I am choosing. I’m looking for a real one.