I am having all of the feels about self-care. I am glad self-care is becoming mainstream and is being recognized as important. Let’s begin by talking about what self-care is NOT.
Self-care does not have to be about spending money: going out to eat, getting your nails done. You don’t have to spend any money at all to take care of yourself.
Self-care is not selfish. It is an intentional commitment to caring for yourself on a daily basis. This is a way to better understand yourself, your needs and desires, where you are giving your energy and is a way to pour back into yourself. As humans, we are constantly giving out energy and receiving/processing so much information throughout the day. We are always getting messages about what it means to be well and healthy. Committing to a self-care routine is a way to learn more about yourself and to stop the comparisons. To identify what being healthy (physically, mentally, and emotionally) means to you. We can’t compare how others live their lives by what we see on social media, after all, it’s their highlight reel. Sometimes you may need to put your phone down or unfollow people who make you feel badly about your life.
So today I will list five ways you can implement self-care starting today:
Set boundaries. I have been feeling the need to be on all the time, constant distractions from the phone, our loved ones, and responsibilities. When we set boundaries, we make our yes, yes and our no, no. We become clear about what our intentions/needs are at the moment. Boundaries let others know what to expect from you but they also let you know what to expect from yourself. Do you need more rest today? Is today a day to stay home and limit spending money? Are you in need of some quiet time? It’s okay to let others know what does and does not work for you.
Pay attention to your self-talk. How are you talking to yourself? Start the day with affirmations, prayer, etc. Take a few moments to reflect on what you are saying. Are you being kind? Are you being judgmental?
Spend some time alone. This is different than isolation. We live in a world when we may feel compelled to always be available or be “On”. Even five minutes of alone time to breathe and love on yourself during the day is beneficial. Alone time can be done 15 minutes before your household gets up, giving yourself time to transition between the work day and coming home, etc.
Use your supports. Check on your friends and allow them to check on you. Give and receive hugs. Communicate with others when you aren’t feeling well. Share your joys and allow people to be there for you when you need it. You don’t have to be strong all the time.
Take a walk or move your body. Exercise is one of the most effective ways for managing mood. I also find being in nature to be very healing so going for a walk is a 2-for-1.
I’m sure I could add so much more to this list but this is a great way to start building a self-care routine. If you are interested in more information about self-care, check out the resources tab and follow me on Instagram.