Every year it always seems as if no sooner than Christmas Day ends, the stores start stocking up on all things pink, red, and white. Yup, it’s time for Valentine’s Day. The holiday that was created to showcase all things love. The problem with this holiday is that it caters to only those who are in a relationship, glamorizes love, and creates an unhealthy image of what actually looks like. Not to mention, Valentine’s is not a “real” holiday (if I don’t get a day off for it, then it ain’t real, lol). I just don’t believe a holiday should have the power to dictate how a person feels about themselves depending on if they have a Valentine and if they get a gift. I must admit, there used to be a time when I would get down and depressed on February 14th if I was single. I had internalized the messages and decided there was something wrong with me because I was not in a relationship.
So I’m here to tell you, if you are single, you can partake in Valentine’s Day, too! Though many people may feel bound to Here are three reasons why you can celebrate Valentine’s Day as a single.
The greatest love is the love you have for yourself.
1. Despite what we have been told in childhood, a woman or man’s worth is not defined by how well you are able to attract a mate. YOU define your worth. The best time to work on who you want to be when in a relationship is to begin by having a healthy relationship with yourself. This Valentine’s Day, I encourage you to celebrate yourself! Take yourself out to dinner, pamper yourself, write affirmations and love notes, send yourself flowers. Whatever you decide to do, show yourself some love today and every day.
Enjoy the day with your friends.
2. Bustle shares how to throw a singles dinner party for Valentine’s Day. Friends are a huge support system and if they’re single, then they can empathize with the emotions that may occur on this holiday. Plan to spend some time and share some gratitude with your friends. You can show your friends the value of their friendship by celebrating them on love day. Invite friends of both genders, you never know who may connect.
Rewrite the rules.
3. Yes, Valentine’s Day was started as a way to monetize and glorify being in a relationship. However, the images we see and how we define what a successful relationship involves may be in contrast to societal standards. Be honest with yourself on this day. If you feel a twinge of disappointment or hopelessness, share it with someone. Let others know you may need extra support on this day. Change the significance of the day and write down all the ways you have received love in your life. You get to create the life you want and celebrate how you want. Decide what you place value on and honor that. As Forrest Gump said, “Life is like a box of chocolates. You never know what you’re going to get.”
I hope I inspired you to share the love on Valentine’s Day whether you are single, have a new relationship, or have been committed for years. February 14th is another day on the books. It’s a great day to celebrate you!